Mother knows best, Fannie H. Irwin

Fannie Hertz is my Great-great-grandmother. She married her second husband Boston Irwin on April 12th, 1890.

Georgia County Marriages, 1785-1950, database images, Georgia Dept. Archives and History, Morrow, GA

Fannie was a Civil War baby born in February 1865, Alabama. Her Georgia born parents are still a mystery. When she was born, Henry County, AL, did not experience any significant battles during the nation’s conflict over slavery. Alabama ratified the 13th amendment to abolish slavery on December 2nd, 1865.

Abstracted U.S. Census 1900 Shorterville, Alabama.
Fannie with her children and her occupation, farmer. It also indicates that she can read.
Abstracted U.S. 1910 Census Shorterville, Alabama.
Boston told the Census Taker that he and Fannie had previous marriages.
Abstracted U.S. 1920 Census Shorterville, Alabama. Boston and Fannie are empty nesters. Fannie said her parents were from Georgia. Notice two houses down, Hurst family, Ida Hurst says her parents are from Georgia as well. Hertz and Hurst sound a like. Are they Fannie’s relatives?

Shorterville, a rural area of Henry County, is where Fannie raised her children and worked her farm on the land she rented. She was educated and was into life coaching her children, Pearla, Jarrett, Elgin and Arie. According to family stories, she would be considered a helicopter parent by today’s standards. Once I go into this account, maybe a Monster-in-law would fit better.

When her son, my Great-grandfather, Jarrett, lived in Florida and married an older woman. Fannie visited the newlyweds. Nothing unusual about a mother’s visit to bless a new couple. It’s to be expected. Marriage is not just two people; it’s the blending of families.

Fannie didn’t bless. There was no blending.

Fannie disapproved of Jarrett’s choice of a matured woman. She told her son his wife was too old.

Eventually, Jarrett followed his mother back to Alabama. Fannie introduced him to a young Sarah Grimsley. Jarrett and Sarah married, raised children, shared hardships, and endured until death did they part.

Mother knew best. I am so thankful for Fannie’s wisdom. I would not be here if it weren’t for her motherly guidance.

Some people call it meddling. But the reality is a mother’s intuition is fail-proof.

Are you thankful for your mother’s advice? Let me know in the comments below.

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